Why do I want to talk about stress-free wedding planning? Well, let me tell you about why I’m so passionate about you having the day that you want & to remind you just how easy wedding planning should be.
It’s such a personal subject to me. When I got engaged in 2004, I was so excited! I wanted a wedding that was different, funky, individual & I had epic ideas for how I was going to make that happen!
Firstly, I wanted to get married wearing a white trouser suit & top hat, at a hotel on the edge of a lake in The Lake District. Then, my husband & I wanted a round top table, with sausage and mash as our main, because we didn’t want fancy food, it didn’t feel like us. If we could’ve got away with it, then we would have had fish & chips but sadly the wedding venue didn’t provide that!
Basically, I wanted a wedding that was true to ME & my partner that I could remember for a lifetime. After all, that’s what weddings are for right?
Every wedding should be a true reflection of you as a couple, wouldn't you agree? But I think we’ve fallen into the trap of having traditional weddings or a wedding for Pinterest because it’s trendy at the time. Wedding planning can be easy & stress-free but currently, it feels like a mammoth task.
But what about you? Do you want to sit back in 5 years time & wish you’d done it different? Damn right you don’t.
I remember now telling some of my close family about my plans only to be greeted with
“You can’t do that it's not the done thing”.
“You can’t go there! Family won’t travel that far”.
“You can’t wear that, you’re a girl. You need to get married in a dress”.
But what about what I wanted?
Anyway, I compromised. I didn't have the wedding I wanted. Other peoples' opinions dictated how WE spent our day. To keep the peace, also to make everyone else happy.
And guess what? 16 years on (& counting!) I'm STILL disappointed.
Because since then I have learnt that it doesn't have to be this way. You get to decide and your wedding is about you, not everyone else's opinion of you.
When you look back on your wedding day the only thoughts and feelings should be utter joy, incredible memories and NO regrets. Knowing that it was a frickin' awesome day.
See, I’ve been where you are. And I know it happens time and time again. You never want to hurt the ones you love and you know what you want isn't the norm and you're seeing all over the internet and in the magazines what's in right now, but it’s just not you. It doesn’t feel right.
You don't have to settle
Your wedding day is about a celebration of you & your other half’s combined love & fab relationship. It is NOT (yes I shouted that) about compromising to please others.
So I promise to listen. I promise to make your vision a reality and find a way to combine all that you are into a day that is truly you. Because together, I guarantee you that together we'll create a wedding day as awesome as you are.
Photo of me with Roxy & Josh, Summer 2022, by the awesome Steve Mulvey Photography
Thank you for your hard work, we couldn’t have asked for a better wedding day. The little touches you suggested really helped to bring everything together