Anti-Bullying Week 2022 & the wedding industry

When you’re planning a wedding, you’re hit from all sides with opinions on your wedding plans and ideas.

 

Some of them are outright rude:

 

“That would look silly”.

“You can’t wear that!”

“Oh. Interesting.”

Some of them come in as a passive aggressive comment or 2.

“Wouldn’t it look better if you did XYZ?”

“So and so did that, it’s a bit done now”.

Or perhaps they rock up at your wedding in a white outfit (think Alexis in Schitts Creek, wearing a white dress to walk David down the aisle!)

But as well as fielding comments from other people on your fabulous plans, I think that you also need to be aware that you shouldn’t be approaching things in an aggressive or bullying way.

Image shows Alexis from Schitts Creek, wearing a long white wedding gown. She is looking frustrated & putting in her earring while she stands in her bedroom at the Rosebud Motel.

What do I mean by this? Well, have you asked someone to be part of your wedding party, and it’s come with a caveat? Perhaps you’ve asked a bridesmaid, but commented “I’d love you to be my bridesmaid! But would you please consider covering your tattoos so that they don’t show in your bridesmaid's dress?”

 

Or maybe you’ve asked someone to be a groomsman, but phrased it along the lines of “I’d love you to be my right-hand man, but I’m not sure your beard goes with my vibe. Could you please shave it off?”

 

Eeesh. These aren’t exactly positive experiences for anyone involved, so have a think. Has your request for support come with a caveat? Please reconsider! You love these family & friends, just as they are. And you’d expect their support of your wedding plans, without question.

 

This isn’t meant as a rant, or to tell you what to do. But in a world that is constantly changing, I would love it if people in my part of it would continue to #bekind and to consider others' feelings a little bit. Yes, the wedding is about you 2, but if you want your loved ones to be with you on the day, then perhaps a little more thought into their feelings could only be a good thing.

 

What do you think? Have you just realised that you’ve been a tiny bit bride-/groomzilla? Or have you been on the receiving end of less-than-positive comments? Let’s pay some kindness forward instead!

With love

Bxx